Last week I became an Aunty.
I come from a ‘super child-free’ household with a child-free attitude so the whole thing was a bit of a shock.
You see all these Youtube videos of women screaming, delighted that they will be an Aunty, but it is taboo subject, that some new aunties, are not pleased. Even some child-free aunties are delighted for various reasons.
I also felt sad that the new parents would now have to fork out £250,000 over 18 years or more and have all the stress of having a kid and not have any time for themselves. It would be a drain on the planet and resources.
Anyway, it turns out that my supposedly childfree brother, who in his late forties, secretly married his girlfriend overseas a few months ago, and last week, I was presented with a* secret* baby! Yes, is like something out of a soap opera.My head has been going round in circles ever since.
Apparently the baby was born early in Spring and they kept it quiet for a month.The grandparents knew about all of this but no one told me, the sister. They mumbled when I asked when they got married. When asked why they didn’t tell me, they just said ‘they couldn’t find the right moment’.
I couldn’t believe the baby was theirs at first. The ‘girlfriend’ wore baggy clothes throughout. I thought my brother was joking, but they showed wedding photos and a photo of his new wife in the hospital. So I have a new sister-in-law too. I am supposed to be suddenly ‘delighted’.I have a lot to digest
I am still very hurt that they failed to tell me about all this earlier and the secrecy was very cruel.They only told me ‘when they had to’ and that was when the baby was born. I mean, who does that?
After our get together over a coffee,they reminded me when his birthday was and ‘suggested’ that I should get the baby presents.They also said I could make booties. (Perhaps if they told me earlier, then I would have had some ready). Now, I feel they want to ‘use me’for freeloading presents. I am not really a bootie-making person and I am not maternal whatsoever. Maybe I will take the child out doing something interesting when they reach a toilet-trained age, ,but I can’t think of what else I would do.I am a busy person… agggh!
They also knew my thoughts of babysitting and I always said that I wouldn’t do it. I am just not baby-minded, not every woman is.
I know I will I have to do something as an aunty, but I am not really sure what that will be, I just hope that will be a lot less than most aunties!