I’m an Aunty, and I am not happy!

Last week I became an Aunty.

I come from a ‘super child-free’ household with a child-free attitude so the whole thing was a bit of a shock.

You see all these Youtube videos of women screaming, delighted that they will be an Aunty, but it is taboo subject, that  some new aunties, are not pleased. Even some child-free aunties are delighted for various reasons.

I also felt sad that the new parents would now have to fork out £250,000 over 18 years or more and have all the stress of having a kid and not have any time for themselves.  It would be a drain on the planet and resources. 

Anyway, it turns out that my supposedly childfree  brother, who in his late forties, secretly married his girlfriend overseas a few months ago, and last week, I was presented with a* secret* baby! Yes, is like something out of a soap opera.My head has been going round in circles ever since.

Apparently the baby was born early in Spring and they kept it quiet for a month.The grandparents knew about all of this but no one told me, the sister. They mumbled when I asked when they got married. When asked why they didn’t tell me, they just said ‘they couldn’t find the right moment’.

I couldn’t believe the baby was theirs at first. The ‘girlfriend’ wore baggy clothes throughout. I thought my brother was joking, but they showed wedding photos and a photo of his new wife in the hospital. So I have a new sister-in-law too. I am supposed to be suddenly ‘delighted’.I have a lot to digest

I am still very hurt that they failed to tell me about all this earlier and the secrecy was very cruel.They only told me ‘when they had to’ and that was when the baby was born. I mean, who does that?

After our get together over a coffee,they reminded me when his birthday was and ‘suggested’ that I should get the baby presents.They also said I could make booties. (Perhaps if they told me earlier, then I would have had some ready). Now, I feel they want to ‘use me’for freeloading presents. I am not really a bootie-making person and I am not maternal whatsoever. Maybe I will take the child out doing something interesting when they reach a toilet-trained age, ,but I can’t think of what else I would do.I am a busy person… agggh!

They  also knew my thoughts of babysitting and I always said that I wouldn’t do it. I am just not baby-minded, not every woman is.

I know I will I have to do something as an aunty, but I am not really sure what that will be, I just hope that will be a lot less than most aunties!

Sheer Relief of being a Childfree Woman!

Female politicians are constantly scrutinised if they do not  have children, and now we have Nicola Sturgeon going on about her miscarriage.

Politicians always seem to pandering to the ‘woman who is a mother’ voter, ignoring childfree women who make many contributions to their society.

Well, there are  a lot of British women, like myself, who do not want children, and here are some reasons why it is a relief not to have them and be happy and less stressed without them.

  1. I am not maternal
  2. Women still die from childbirth or get injured
  3. It is a very expensive
  4. It is a huge responsibility
  5. It is bad for the planet
  6. I am a busy person and children would affect my time
  7. I want to focus on other things, like volunteering etc.
  8. I don’t want any of my children to be drug addicts, murderers, drink drivers, rapists, thieves etc
  9. They encourage a consumerism,which creates waste
  10. I don’t like children and have no interest
  11. Children can be bullies
  12. Chlldren, bring more stress
  13. Children can attack you, in some circumstances, they have even killed their parents
  14. I don’t want to spend my time shopping for school stuff pr after school activities
  15. I don’t want to have holidays only at certain times of the year
  16. I don’t want to buy a people carrier
  17. I don’t want to be tied down
  18. I don’t want to listen to mothers at the school gates and talk about kids
  19. I find kid stuff really  boring
  20. I don’t want schools tell me what I can and I can’t do
  21. I don’t want to be a single parent, and be dumped by the father
  22. I don’t want a custody battle
  23. I don’t want household arguments
  24. They don’t make me happy