When you are a Newbie Estrangelista, it is challenge to find where to get help and information from and you can feel alone.
In the UK, 1 in 5 families in the UK will be affected by estrangement and over 5 million people have decided to cut contact with at least one family member.
These are things that helped me deal with estrangement from my own family. I don’t have much family so it was a big thing for me.
- Talking to close friends (however, they can only take so much)
- Contacting the Samaritans just to off load
- Contacting Relate.org.uk – they have a Free Live Messenger Service
- Going for a Walk or sightseeing
- Having time on my own to process things
- Going to a local City Farm and stroking the animals. Animals are brilliant for therapy
- Doing some practical work to keep my mind occupied
- Thinking it through and yes, I did try, and get angry. It needs to be processed.
- I set a Countdown dates on Apps so I would target family events ie Easter that I would try and avoid. It was really important to miss these family events. Your absence will be noticed and there will be no photographs of you on that day for posterity. The more events you miss, the more of an impact your absence will be.
- Sign up to Standalone.org.uk the First UK Charity to help adults to have been estranged or cut off